LIFE SOMEHOW BRINGS IT UP and, in order to impress, you tell so many lies and half-truths about yourself, that, at some point, you realize that you’re not open to anybody. This means that you spend your whole life inside your mind, and, even if you have friends and family, you go through major dramas inside of you, all alone. First of all, we should clarify that the best way to move forward and get over all the cosmic challenges is to share them with your most loved persons. But you can’t just tell someone “Open-up” as if he was waiting for your whistle, and then he is transformed into the “master of sociability.” The goal is to lighten their extra weight.
If you can’t find friends/family to open-up to, then a good start to understanding yourself is to start writing down your experiences and thoughts as you grow up, and then re-read them when older in order to witness if you’ve learnt your lessons or not.
It’s not that by “burying” them they won’t reappear in front of your face. Sooner or later, you realize that, at some point, you must confront them, or they'll keep on “eating you alive.” To be brief, they’re your issues and only you can solve them. By reading your logic and the facts you described, it’s very possible to find the famous “reason why,” or, at the very least, you will have already let off a lot of steam. Be certain that the future you will return to read them, in case you’re repeating the same mistakes, and that, practically, it adds much more usefulness to your experiences.
Some also unravel their talent as a writer according to biographies, but many more amateur writers have it as a vehicle to communicate without fearing their own thoughts, in order to get to know themselves. It was suggested by the TV series “VAMPIRE DIARIES”, but was forgotten after the first episodes and lost the chance to say something useful to its millions of teenager viewers. Diaries are also a good idea, but the above refers to writing down all that troubles you, or stresses you, or makes you shine, or weighs you down at night, which, for your own reasons, you don’t want to share with anyone. Seeing them written down, you understand that they’re not as terrible and scary as when they were enlarged inside your mind. The magic of self-treatment through the famous externalization of our issues. [Much more in the Novel]
Also, you’ll then, probably, realize that your issues aren’t yours alone and many are experiencing the exact same issues, and the best way to gain experience on solving them is by being open, and listen to other people’s solutions in the same problem.
To conclude, young “Filippo,” if something tyrannizes you, put it down on paper and it’s much more possible to make sense of issues that until then you had regarded as never-to-be-solved. The more honest you are with yourself and the more open, the better the results. The first step is to recognize the problem, then you write it down and, by reading it and sharing it, you do the best you can, and finally chill out, because you can’t do more than the best you can. :)