THESE ARE POINT OF VIEWS and info I’d love to have known as a teenager, or at least have their perspective, and that is why I share them with all teenagers and teen-spirits. We need many more teenage soul's and that’s the only reason for the answers I would give in my teen self, or in current youngsters who see the world a little bit differently than boring men and women do. I’m not going to insist on my views, I am also writing for learning more.
THANX THE YOUNGTERS, because no matter how the irresponsible adults of each generation f#$% it down, there always going be rebellious teenagers, ready for saving the world from all this malfunctioning hypocricy! Being a teenager, thankfully, is characterized from revolutionary action's, renegotiating from the beginning all the “adult-crap” philosophies. This teen Q&A are for these teenagers, young soul's. Or offering proof that even the adults want something much better than the world we witness.
Let's not forget, that all generation's agree that we all want “changing the world”, as this is the most common wish for any newborn bafrom: “May he/she change the world.”And we mean it! I believe, it’s most beneficial if different generation's work together, because we can all learn a billion thing's, from our fruitful cooperation. So many things are extremely wrong during todays era, and we all know it, even if we keep our eyes shut. Maybe, talking open with each other, may are the first steop in changing our sad epoch? Yeap! We may fix todays hostile attitude, together! Come, join me!
Email me: Acontact@filippos.com your issues or question's and I’ll try posting my take as informatively as possible, according in what my eyes have witnessed. Personally, I've seen on the web many mediocre and boring "solutions" and I wanna change that! :)
The statistics about teenage suicide are jaw-breaking. In the U.S. only, 3,041 teenage suicide attemps (12-18 y.o.) occur, EVERY DAY! Almost all of them have a psychological disorder at the time of death, meaning that you can "see the signs", if you're a parent who pays close attention to your children. Suicidal teens are very often depressed, bored of everything, find no interest in our world, lonely, don't believe in anyone, bullied, angry at everything, and as a result most of them take drugs or drink lots of alcohol, alienating them even more. How though may we solve Teenage Suicides? My take on this huge problem is....
A very realistic, honest and compelling TV show with smart, lovable and realistic characters, strong friendships, amazing acting and a "teenage feeling," dedicated to "teenagers suicides;" after their teen angst, which originated from bullying. This time it's the lovely, beautiful and very intelligent girl, Hannahh, aged 17, who unfortunately commits suicide, because she doesn't know that no matter how traumatizing the bullying is at school, it only lasts these very few years, and then, you have a whole life without any bullying. Because, after school we have this thing called "Law" -putting bullies to prison, since they're not minors anymore. The best solution to stop bullying is to "call them out" as soon as possible, to people with authority, and insist on ending the problem until it's solved. Then, not only will you have a very strong ally, but, it's also their lawful obligation to put an end to it. Hannahh, recorded 7 tapes, addressed to 13 people who according to her were "The 13 Reasons Why" she committed suicide at the age of 17. Each tape's side is one episode. My favourite character/actor is the "Rebel without a Cause" Alex, played from Miles Heizer.
[To the right is "Hannah", and below is "Alex"]
If a good friend or a parent wants to help them out, or to minimize the suicidal risk, the most important thing is to UNDERSTAND your child or friend. First listen to him, and then be OPEN to his new ideas. And that means that you may have to stop being the "All-knowing" stiff parent, or the cop-parent, who pressures the teenager even more. Try not to forget that we were all very bored of school's classes and homework, and having to spend half of our day with something that you don't like at all, naturally makes you angry. Teenage years though, have also the potential to be the most "eye-opening" years of your life. But, if your parents don't believe in you, or if they only listen to themselves, they may darken your teenage years and may lead you to the misconception that our world "sucks big times," and there's no way out of it. With that in mind, committing suicide doesn't sound that crazy... But, this is a misconception, due to teenagers' lack of experience.
And this is the key point I want to underline to depressed teenagers. Don't judge from what you experienced during only these 12-18 years, and pretty much in the exact same "boxed environment," with the exact same police-rules. After high-school graduation sets off a completely new level, and when you used to hate everything around you, now you can be surrounded from people just like you, sharing similar interests. And trust me, there always are. An example for the above is a very talented artist, born in a small farmer's village, where none can appreciate his talent and they make a joke out of his artistic efforts, making him depressed to the bone. Then he moves to the city, shows his artwork to the right eyes, and... BOOM! He's now an Artist, and as happy as can be, since his love, his hobfrom, can also be his means of survival. From depressed and suicidal, to being a happy & successful man. And dear parents, please don't be easily dissappointed from your children, believe in them, UNDERSTAND THEM, and help them to spread their wings, even if their dreams are far away from yours.
Series Backstory: Surprisingly, two studies in the U.S. claim that: "There was a nearly 30% increase in suicides among kids 12 to 18 years old in the month following the release of the show." And that's really a lot and can't be easily ignored. That's why the Production of "13 Reasons Why" built a suicide prevention website with all kind of resources, worldwide: https://13reasonswhy.info/ The only reason I can think of, is that maybe teens with similar to Hannahh's issues "realized" through the show, that their issues may even lead to suicide, as Hannah did in the show. Even if Hannahh had loving parents who loved her, and many friends who cared about her, even if they temporarly belittled her, plus she was very pretty -and that's VERY rare. Obviously, they're teens out there with much much worst problems, and the truth is that almost all of them moved on after high school. And that's the truth that the troubled teens should listen to. Teens with much more traumatic lives got over it, to show you that you can do it to no matter the sh** you're now facing. There's ALWAYS a solution, even if "I've never been a 14 years old girl" as said in "The Virgin Suicides", an amazing & mesmerizing true-story film from Sofia Coppola, with a similar subject. If you're reading this and you can't find your solution no matter what, feel free to email me at contact(at)filippos.com and we can try to find it together. Life has the potential to be too f** amazing to kill yourself.
Furthermore, the Suicide Prevention Resource Center offers very valuable resources to help parents to talk about the "13 Reasons Why" TV series and suicide risk and prevention to their teenage children.